3.19.2008

BOW TIES: NOT TAKING A BOW ANYTIME SOON



I stumbled on this question in a Men’s Accessories section of a revered publication.

Question: Why don’t we see more bow ties? I’ve always thought a guy in a bow tie looks like a gentleman, not to mention that he has a much smaller chance of dropping food on his tie. Or is the bow tie really reserved for schmucks?

Where has this person been hibernating? Bow ties have resurged with a forceful vengeance. I am seeing them everywhere: Editorials, city streets, parties, and even at casual restaurants. Astute Lawyers aren’t the only representation for the accessory piece anymore. You’re seeing a multitude of style players rocking bow ties. We’re noticing hipsters pairing it with suspenders; savvy-gents tucking it underneath sweaters; and even ladies sporting with cropped cotton blouses.

You readers know I’m a sucker for market! I went hunting, virtually, for my best bows.

Union Jack bow tie by Union Jack Wear



Two-tone textured bow tie by New Style


Dandy bow ties by Impasse 13 (Creator was the ‘Accessories Designer’ behind Dior Homme.)



More bow ties by Impasse13. I like how each bowtie acquires a distinct shape.


Tartan bow tie by Old Wallace



Update: I noticed in the comments section, many Gents are a little challenged when it comes to tying a bow tie. To help with that, I found this great "how to tie a bow tie" clip that's simple and easy to follow. After this video I believe you'll be the bow tie pro!


How To Tie A Bow Tie

MSR: THIS WEEK IN STYLE


MS R Gent, David Beckham, stylin' on a casual stroll in L.A.
I believe the sleek black frames (look YSL from far) anchors his casual attire!

Style genius, Tom Ford, featured on the current issue of Fantastic Man: The Gentleman's Style Journal.
I like this closeup angle shot of Mr. Ford.

T. Beckford showing his spring-ready ensemble.
I appreciate the risky approach taken with the floral and pinstripe mixing! Let's not miss the red coiffed pocket square in the breast pocket.

Pt. II: Kudos to the wardrobe person on this show! The perfectly tie knot (bold, huh!) and contrasting pocket square (solid black) is stylishly gangsta!

The complimenting couple I call them. Both style-savvy in their own respects. This retro shot was taken in front of La Esquina (underground scenic restaurant) in NYC.


A picture taken from the streets of Japan. The trench coat and jet-black aviators in this capture are critical!

Ben Affleck en route to his fundraiser soirée for Barack Obama.
I like the look! It might seem too casual for the untrained eye, but notice the tailored jacket and untucked oxford donned to make it a bit dressy.


I like these two as a couple! Young Hollywood!
Their combined styling is no joke! My only flaw is the Gent's distressed Gray shoes. I understand your intention, but wearing black shoes would've been more fitting for your knotch lapel suit. It seems way too uniformed with Gray shoes


WHO NEEDS A TICKET FOR JAY-Z and MARY J. CONCERT?

Unfortunately, but lucky for someone, I have to relinquish my ticket for Jay-Z and Mary J's Live Nation concert (May 6th, 2008 @ 7:30) at MSG (Madison Square Garden). I'm offering them up in two other outlets, with here being the third.

My seat is as follow: Section: 425 Row: G Seat: 4 . Check seating chart on ticketmaster for a clear depiction.

If you or someone you know is interested please have them e-mail Mr. MSR: malestylereview@gmail.com .

Just check their chemistry on stage from the infamous 'Fade to Black' concert at MSG. I'm loving the crowd reactions!!!! Bummer I won't be apart of it!



IN THE PRESENT & NEWS BITS

3/19/2008

Life comes with problems

"For a long time it had seemed to me that life was about to begin -- real life. But there was always some obstacle in the way, something to be got through first, some unfinished business, time still to be served, a debt to be paid. Then life would begin. At last it dawned on me that these obstacles were my life."

-Alfred D’Souza

Life always brings problems. We really can’t live without them.

And so it helps to shift our perspective. We can stop trying to avoid the problems. We can stop feeling victimized by what’s happening. Instead, we can consciously work with the challenge of the moment to learn more about ourselves and the world. When we make this shift in attitude, we discover ourselves to be strong and powerful.

"Every lesson is a widening and deepening of consciousness. It is a stretching of the mind beyond its conceptual limits and a stretching of the heart beyond its emotional boundaries. It is a bringing of unconscious material into consciousness, a healing of past wounds, and a discovery of new faith and trust."

Sometimes we must go deep BROTHERS!

NEWS BITS

Trinity United Church response to Obama’s thought provoking speech.

UN police returns to riot-riddled Kosovo.

Lady Fahmida Mirza elected as Pakistan’s parliament speaker.

Facebook to setup new privacy controls.

The Boston Celtics ceases Houston Rockets’ winning streak.

3.18.2008

BARACK OBAMA: RACE IN AMERICA




My internet was shot for some time, so apologies for not quickly delivering the powerful and necessary Barack speech on "Race in America."

First off, a big THANKS [and props] to Aretha Safaro (Global Fusion) for sending over this amazing oration. I think this speech topped his tear-down-the-the-place DNC welcome address. Puffery aside, this speech should be refferenced and added with the other greats: Gettysburg Address (Abraham Lincoln), I Have A Dream (Dr. Martin Luther King) , We Choose To Go To The Moon (John F. Kennedy), just to highlight a few.

Barack Obama, I'm proud of this representation of boldness and resilience. This speech was necessary for the nation. Thanks for exposing the racial lens that we sometimes have shut or slip to the waysides.

I am very confident this speech will be famed for its powers of verbal and oral communication.

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This speech is lengthy, but absorbing it will make it a quick read. Look forward to other entries tomorrow because this is more than enough! :)

RACE IN AMERICA


Two hundred and twenty one years ago, in a hall that still stands across the street, a group of men gathered and, with these simple words, launched America’s improbable experiment in democracy.

Farmers and scholars; statesmen and patriots who had traveled across an ocean to escape tyranny and persecution finally made real their declaration of independence at a Philadelphia convention that lasted through the spring of 1787.

The document they produced was eventually signed but ultimately unfinished. It was stained by this nation’s original sin of slavery, a question that divided the colonies and brought the convention to a stalemate until the founders chose to allow the slave trade to continue for at least 20 more years, and to leave any final resolution to future generations.

Of course, the answer to the slavery question was already embedded within our Constitution -- a Constitution that had at its very core the ideal of equal citizenship under the law; a Constitution that promised its people liberty, and justice, and a union that could be and should be perfected over time.

And yet words on a parchment would not be enough to deliver slaves from bondage, or provide men and women of every color and creed their full rights and obligations as citizens of the United States.

What would be needed were Americans in successive generations who were willing to do their part -- through protests and struggle, on the streets and in the courts, through a civil war and civil disobedience and always at great risk -- to narrow that gap between the promise of our ideals and the reality of their time.

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This was one of the tasks we set forth at the beginning of this campaign -- to continue the long march of those who came before us, a march for a more just, more equal, more free, more caring and more prosperous America.

I chose to run for the presidency at this moment in history because I believe deeply that we cannot solve the challenges of our time unless we solve them together -- unless we perfect our union by understanding that we may have different stories, but we hold common hopes; that we may not look the same and we may not have come from the same place, but we all want to move in the same direction -- towards a better future for our children and our grandchildren.

This belief comes from my unyielding faith in the decency and generosity of the American people. But it also comes from my own American story.

I am the son of a black man from Kenya and a white woman from Kansas. I was raised with the help of a white grandfather who survived a Depression to serve in Patton’s Army during World War II and a white grandmother who worked on a bomber assembly line at Fort Leavenworth while he was overseas.

I’ve gone to some of the best schools in America and lived in one of the world’s poorest nations. I am married to a black American who carries within her the blood of slaves and slaveowners -- an inheritance we pass on to our two precious daughters.

I have brothers, sisters, nieces, nephews, uncles and cousins, of every race and every hue, scattered across three continents, and for as long as I live, I will never forget that in no other country on Earth is my story even possible.

It’s a story that hasn’t made me the most conventional candidate. But it is a story that has seared into my genetic makeup the idea that this nation is more than the sum of its parts -- that out of many, we are truly one.

Throughout the first year of this campaign, against all predictions to the contrary, we saw how hungry the American people were for this message of unity.

Despite the temptation to view my candidacy through a purely racial lens, we won commanding victories in states with some of the whitest populations in the country. In South Carolina, where the Confederate Flag still flies, we built a powerful coalition of African-Americans and white Americans.

This is not to say that race has not been an issue in the campaign. At various stages in the campaign, some commentators have deemed me either "too black" or "not black enough."

We saw racial tensions bubble to the surface during the week before the South Carolina primary. The press has scoured every exit poll for the latest evidence of racial polarization, not just in terms of white and black, but black and brown as well.

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And yet, it has only been in the last couple of weeks that the discussion of race in this campaign has taken a particularly divisive turn.

On one end of the spectrum, we’ve heard the implication that my candidacy is somehow an exercise in affirmative action, that it’s based solely on the desire of wide-eyed liberals to purchase racial reconciliation on the cheap.

On the other end, we’ve heard my former pastor, Rev. Jeremiah Wright, use incendiary language to express views that have the potential not only to widen the racial divide, but views that denigrate both the greatness and the goodness of our nation -- that rightly offend white and black alike.

I have already condemned, in unequivocal terms, the statements of Rev. Wright that have caused such controversy. For some, nagging questions remain.

Did I know him to be an occasionally fierce critic of American domestic and foreign policy? Of course. Did I ever hear him make remarks that could be considered controversial while I sat in church? Yes. Did I strongly disagree with many of his political views? Absolutely -- just as I’m sure many of you have heard remarks from your pastors, priests or rabbis with which you strongly disagreed.

But the remarks that have caused this recent firestorm weren’t simply controversial. They weren’t simply a religious leader’s effort to speak out against perceived injustice.

Instead, they expressed a profoundly distorted view of this country -- a view that sees white racism as endemic, and that elevates what is wrong with America above all that we know is right with America, a view that sees the conflicts in the Middle East as rooted primarily in the actions of stalwart allies like Israel, instead of emanating from the perverse and hateful ideologies of radical Islam.

As such, Rev. Wright’s comments were not only wrong but divisive, divisive at a time when we need unity; racially charged at a time when we need to come together to solve a set of monumental problems -- two wars, a terrorist threat, a falling economy, a chronic health care crisis and potentially devastating climate change; problems that are neither black or white or Latino or Asian, but rather problems that confront us all.

Given my background, my politics, and my professed values and ideals, there will no doubt be those for whom my statements of condemnation are not enough. Why associate myself with Rev. Wright in the first place, they may ask? Why not join another church?

And I confess that if all that I knew of Rev. Wright were the snippets of those sermons that have run in an endless loop on the television and YouTube, or if Trinity United Church of Christ conformed to the caricatures being peddled by some commentators, there is no doubt that I would react in much the same way

But the truth is, that isn’t all that I know of the man. The man I met more than 20 years ago is a man who helped introduce me to my Christian faith, a man who spoke to me about our obligations to love one another; to care for the sick and lift up the poor.

He is a man who served his country as a U.S. Marine, who has studied and lectured at some of the finest universities and seminaries in the country, and who for over thirty years led a church that serves the community by doing God’s work here on Earth -- by housing the homeless, ministering to the needy, providing day care services and scholarships and prison ministries, and reaching out to those suffering from HIV/AIDS.

In my first book, "Dreams From My Father," I described the experience of my first service at Trinity:

"People began to shout, to rise from their seats and clap and cry out, a forceful wind carrying the reverend’s voice up into the rafters....And in that single note -- hope! -- I heard something else; at the foot of that cross, inside the thousands of churches across the city, I imagined the stories of ordinary black people merging with the stories of David and Goliath, Moses and Pharaoh, the Christians in the lion’s den, Ezekiel’s field of dry bones.

"Those stories -- of survival, and freedom, and hope -- became our story, my story; the blood that had spilled was our blood, the tears our tears; until this black church, on this bright day, seemed once more a vessel carrying the story of a people into future generations and into a larger world.

"Our trials and triumphs became at once unique and universal, black and more than black; in chronicling our journey, the stories and songs gave us a means to reclaim memories that we didn’t need to feel shame about...memories that all people might study and cherish -- and with which we could start to rebuild."

That has been my experience at Trinity. Like other predominantly black churches across the country, Trinity embodies the black community in its entirety -- the doctor and the welfare mom, the model student and the former gang-banger.

Like other black churches, Trinity’s services are full of raucous laughter and sometimes bawdy humor. They are full of dancing, clapping, screaming and shouting that may seem jarring to the untrained ear.

The church contains in full the kindness and cruelty, the fierce intelligence and the shocking ignorance, the struggles and successes, the love and yes, the bitterness and bias that make up the black experience in America.

And this helps explain, perhaps, my relationship with Rev. Wright. As imperfect as he may be, he has been like family to me. He strengthened my faith, officiated my wedding, and baptized my children.

Not once in my conversations with him have I heard him talk about any ethnic group in derogatory terms, or treat whites with whom he interacted with anything but courtesy and respect. He contains within him the contradictions -- the good and the bad -- of the community that he has served diligently for so many years.

I can no more disown him than I can disown the black community. I can no more disown him than I can my white grandmother -- a woman who helped raise me, a woman who sacrificed again and again for me, a woman who loves me as much as she loves anything in this world, but a woman who once confessed her fear of black men who passed by her on the street, and who on more than one occasion has uttered racial or ethnic stereotypes that made me cringe.

These people are a part of me. And they are a part of America, this country that I love.

Some will see this as an attempt to justify or excuse comments that are simply inexcusable. I can assure you it is not. I suppose the politically safe thing would be to move on from this episode and just hope that it fades into the woodwork.

We can dismiss Rev. Wright as a crank or a demagogue, just as some have dismissed Geraldine Ferraro, in the aftermath of her recent statements, as harboring some deep-seated racial bias.

But race is an issue that I believe this nation cannot afford to ignore right now. We would be making the same mistake that Rev. Wright made in his offending sermons about America -- to simplify and stereotype and amplify the negative to the point that it distorts reality.

The fact is that the comments that have been made and the issues that have surfaced over the last few weeks reflect the complexities of race in this country that we’ve never really worked through -- a part of our union that we have yet to perfect.

And if we walk away now, if we simply retreat into our respective corners, we will never be able to come together and solve challenges like health care, or education, or the need to find good jobs for every American.

Understanding this reality requires a reminder of how we arrived at this point. As William Faulkner once wrote, "The past isn’t dead and buried. In fact, it isn’t even past." We do not need to recite here the history of racial injustice in this country.

But we do need to remind ourselves that so many of the disparities that exist in the African-American community today can be directly traced to inequalities passed on from an earlier generation that suffered under the brutal legacy of slavery and Jim Crow.

Segregated schools were, and are, inferior schools; we still haven’t fixed them, fifty years after Brown v. Board of Education, and the inferior education they provided, then and now, helps explain the pervasive achievement gap between today’s black and white students.

Legalized discrimination -- where blacks were prevented, often through violence, from owning property, or loans were not granted to African-American business owners, or black homeowners could not access FHA mortgages, or blacks were excluded from unions, or the police force, or fire departments -- meant that black families could not amass any meaningful wealth to bequeath to future generations.

That history helps explain the wealth and income gap between black and white, and the concentrated pockets of poverty that persists in so many of today’s urban and rural communities.

A lack of economic opportunity among black men, and the shame and frustration that came from not being able to provide for one’s family, contributed to the erosion of black families -- a problem that welfare policies for many years may have worsened.

And the lack of basic services in so many urban black neighborhoods -- parks for kids to play in, police walking the beat, regular garbage pick-up and building code enforcement -- all helped create a cycle of violence, blight and neglect that continue to haunt us.

This is the reality in which Rev. Wright and other African-Americans of his generation grew up. They came of age in the late fifties and early sixties, a time when segregation was still the law of the land and opportunity was systematically constricted.

What’s remarkable is not how many failed in the face of discrimination, but rather how many men and women overcame the odds; how many were able to make a way out of no way for those like me who would come after them.

But for all those who scratched and clawed their way to get a piece of the American Dream, there were many who didn’t make it -- those who were ultimately defeated, in one way or another, by discrimination.

That legacy of defeat was passed on to future generations -- those young men and, increasingly, young women who we see standing on street corners or languishing in our prisons, without hope or prospects for the future. Even for those blacks who did make it, questions of race, and racism, continue to define their worldview in fundamental ways.

For the men and women of Rev. Wright’s generation, the memories of humiliation and doubt and fear have not gone away; nor has the anger and the bitterness of those years.

That anger may not get expressed in public, in front of white co-workers or white friends. But it does find voice in the barbershop or around the kitchen table. At times, that anger is exploited by politicians, to gin up votes along racial lines, or to make up for a politician’s own failings.

And occasionally it finds voice in the church on Sunday morning, in the pulpit and in the pews. The fact that so many people are surprised to hear that anger in some of Rev. Wright’s sermons simply reminds us of the old truism that the most segregated hour in American life occurs on Sunday morning.

That anger is not always productive; indeed, all too often it distracts attention from solving real problems; it keeps us from squarely facing our own complicity in our condition, and prevents the African-American community from forging the alliances it needs to bring about real change.

But the anger is real; it is powerful; and to simply wish it away, to condemn it without understanding its roots, only serves to widen the chasm of misunderstanding that exists between the races.

In fact, a similar anger exists within segments of the white community. Most working- and middle-class white Americans don’t feel that they have been particularly privileged by their race.

Their experience is the immigrant experience -- as far as they’re concerned, no one’s handed them anything, they’ve built it from scratch. They’ve worked hard all their lives, many times only to see their jobs shipped overseas or their pension dumped after a lifetime of labor.

They are anxious about their futures, and feel their dreams slipping away; in an era of stagnant wages and global competition, opportunity comes to be seen as a zero sum game, in which your dreams come at my expense.

So when they are told to bus their children to a school across town; when they hear that an African-American is getting an advantage in landing a good job or a spot in a good college because of an injustice that they themselves never committed; when they’re told that their fears about crime in urban neighborhoods are somehow prejudiced, resentment builds over time.

Like the anger within the black community, these resentments aren’t always expressed in polite company. But they have helped shape the political landscape for at least a generation.

Anger over welfare and affirmative action helped forge the Reagan Coalition. Politicians routinely exploited fears of crime for their own electoral ends. Talk show hosts and conservative commentators built entire careers unmasking bogus claims of racism while dismissing legitimate discussions of racial injustice and inequality as mere political correctness or reverse racism.

Just as black anger often proved counterproductive, so have these white resentments distracted attention from the real culprits of the middle-class squeeze -- a corporate culture rife with inside dealing, questionable accounting practices and short-term greed; a Washington dominated by lobbyists and special interests; economic policies that favor the few over the many.

And yet, to wish away the resentments of white Americans, to label them as misguided or even racist, without recognizing they are grounded in legitimate concerns -- this too widens the racial divide, and blocks the path to understanding.

This is where we are right now. It’s a racial stalemate we’ve been stuck in for years. Contrary to the claims of some of my critics, black and white, I have never been so naive as to believe that we can get beyond our racial divisions in a single election cycle, or with a single candidacy -- particularly a candidacy as imperfect as my own.

But I have asserted a firm conviction -- a conviction rooted in my faith in God and my faith in the American people -- that working together we can move beyond some of our old racial wounds, and that in fact we have no choice if we are to continue on the path of a more perfect union.

For the African-American community, that path means embracing the burdens of our past without becoming victims of our past. It means continuing to insist on a full measure of justice in every aspect of American life.

But it also means binding our particular grievances -- for better health care, and better schools, and better jobs -- to the larger aspirations of all Americans, the white woman struggling to break the glass ceiling, the white man whose been laid off, the immigrant trying to feed his family.

And it means taking full responsibility for own lives -- by demanding more from our fathers, and spending more time with our children, and reading to them, and teaching them that while they may face challenges and discrimination in their own lives, they must never succumb to despair or cynicism; they must always believe that they can write their own destiny.

Ironically, this quintessentially American -- and yes, conservative -- notion of self-help found frequent expression in Rev. Wright’s sermons. But what my former pastor too often failed to understand is that embarking on a program of self-help also requires a belief that society can change.

The profound mistake of Rev. Wright’s sermons is not that he spoke about racism in our society. It’s that he spoke as if our society was static; as if no progress has been made; as if this country -- a country that has made it possible for one of his own members to run for the highest office in the land and build a coalition of white and black, Latino and Asian, rich and poor, young and old -- is still irrevocably bound to a tragic past.

But what we know -- what we have seen -- is that America can change. That is the true genius of this nation. What we have already achieved gives us hope -- the audacity to hope -- for what we can and must achieve tomorrow.

In the white community, the path to a more perfect union means acknowledging that what ails the African-American community does not just exist in the minds of black people; that the legacy of discrimination -- and current incidents of discrimination, while less overt than in the past -- are real and must be addressed.

Not just with words, but with deeds -- by investing in our schools and our communities; by enforcing our civil rights laws and ensuring fairness in our criminal justice system; by providing this generation with ladders of opportunity that were unavailable for previous generations.

It requires all Americans to realize that your dreams do not have to come at the expense of my dreams; that investing in the health, welfare and education of black and brown and white children will ultimately help all of America prosper.

In the end, then, what is called for is nothing more, and nothing less, than what all the world’s great religions demand -- that we do unto others as we would have them do unto us. Let us be our brother’s keeper, Scripture tells us. Let us be our sister’s keeper. Let us find that common stake we all have in one another, and let our politics reflect that spirit as well.

For we have a choice in this country. We can accept a politics that breeds division, and conflict, and cynicism. We can tackle race only as spectacle -- as we did in the O.J. trial -- or in the wake of tragedy, as we did in the aftermath of Katrina -- or as fodder for the nightly news.

We can play Rev. Wright’s sermons on every channel, every day and talk about them from now until the election, and make the only question in this campaign whether or not the American people think that I somehow believe or sympathize with his most offensive words.

We can pounce on some gaffe by a Hillary supporter as evidence that she’s playing the race card, or we can speculate on whether white men will all flock to John McCain in the general election regardless of his policies.

We can do that.

But if we do, I can tell you that in the next election, we’ll be talking about some other distraction. And then another one. And then another one. And nothing will change.

That is one option. Or, at this moment, in this election, we can come together and say, "Not this time." This time we want to talk about the crumbling schools that are stealing the future of black children and white children and Asian children and Hispanic children and Native American children.

This time we want to reject the cynicism that tells us that these kids can’t learn; that those kids who don’t look like us are somebody else’s problem. The children of America are not those kids, they are our kids, and we will not let them fall behind in a 21st Century economy. Not this time.

This time we want to talk about how the lines in the emergency room are filled with whites and blacks and Hispanics who do not have health care, who don’t have the power on their own to overcome the special interests in Washington, but who can take them on if we do it together.

This time we want to talk about the shuttered mills that once provided a decent life for men and women of every race, and the homes for sale that once belonged to Americans from every religion, every region, every walk of life.

This time we want to talk about the fact that the real problem is not that someone who doesn’t look like you might take your job; it’s that the corporation you work for will ship it overseas for nothing more than a profit.

This time we want to talk about the men and women of every color and creed who serve together, and fight together, and bleed together under the same proud flag.

We want to talk about how to bring them home from a war that never should’ve been authorized and never should’ve been waged, and we want to talk about how we’ll show our patriotism by caring for them, and their families, and giving them the benefits they have earned.

I would not be running for president if I didn’t believe with all my heart that this is what the vast majority of Americans want for this country. This union may never be perfect, but generation after generation has shown that it can always be perfected.

And today, whenever I find myself feeling doubtful or cynical about this possibility, what gives me the most hope is the next generation -- the young people whose attitudes and beliefs and openness to change have already made history in this election.

There is one story in particularly that I’d like to leave you with today -- a story I told when I had the great honor of speaking on Dr. King’s birthday at his home church, Ebenezer Baptist, in Atlanta.

There is a young, 23-year-old white woman named Ashley Baia who organized for our campaign in Florence, South Carolina. She had been working to organize a mostly African-American community since the beginning of this campaign, and one day she was at a roundtable discussion where everyone went around telling their story and why they were there.

And Ashley said that when she was 9 years old, her mother got cancer. And because she had to miss days of work, she was let go and lost her health care. They had to file for bankruptcy, and that’s when Ashley decided that she had to do something to help her mom.

She knew that food was one of their most expensive costs, and so Ashley convinced her mother that what she really liked and really wanted to eat more than anything else was mustard and relish sandwiches. Because that was the cheapest way to eat.

She did this for a year until her mom got better, and she told everyone at the roundtable that the reason she joined our campaign was so that she could help the millions of other children in the country who want and need to help their parents, too.

Now Ashley might have made a different choice. Perhaps somebody told her along the way that the source of her mother’s problems were blacks who were on welfare and too lazy to work, or Hispanics who were coming into the country illegally. But she didn’t. She sought out allies in her fight against injustice.

Anyway, Ashley finishes her story and then goes around the room and asks everyone else why they’re supporting the campaign. They all have different stories and reasons. Many bring up a specific issue. And finally they come to this elderly black man who’s been sitting there quietly the entire time.

And Ashley asks him why he’s there. And he does not bring up a specific issue. He does not say health care or the economy. He does not say education or the war. He does not say that he was there because of Barack Obama. He simply says to everyone in the room, "I am here because of Ashley."

"I’m here because of Ashley." By itself, that single moment of recognition between that young white girl and that old black man is not enough. It is not enough to give health care to the sick, or jobs to the jobless, or education to our children.

But it is where we start. It is where our union grows stronger. And as so many generations have come to realize over the course of the two-hundred and twenty one years since a band of patriots signed that document in Philadelphia, that is where the perfection begins...

IN THE PRESENT & NEWS BITS

3/18/2008

In the Present

LEADERSHIP IS ACTION NOT POSITION

All successful people became successful, because they gave some talent or ability in the service of others.
You can contribute in some way to others, no matter how small your talent.
You too, can become successful.

No one achieves success without being of service.

Successful people don't use others,
other people use the successful,
for above all success is of service.

Everyone has to be someone to someone to be anyone.
Service is the essence of success.

NEWS BITS

Obama tackles his Pastor’s idiotic racial viewpoints. (Stay tune for the transcript from his power speech on “Race in America”. Barack really delivered a strong oration!)

Dali Lama: Considering resigning if violence in Tibet persists.

Judge bashes Heather Mills in divorce case with Paul McCartney.

Soaring prices of fuel causes major cutback at Delta Airlines.

My favorite interviewer saves MacBook Air instead of face-contact with ground. Mr. Jobs, look at what your genius and sensational branding is causing.




3.17.2008

IN THE PRESENT & NEWS BITS

3/17/2008

In the Present

Do you own your life?

"The meaning of life is to give life meaning."

When we own our lives, we accept what we've inherited and the experiences we hold in our memories. We also claim our right to create new conditions if we're not happy with what's come before. We assume responsibility for changing what does not suit us. We acknowledge our own special talents and skills, and truly comprehend our right to enjoy the journey. In short, we embrace the meaning and purpose, the mystery and the beauty of our lives.

Do you feel that you own your life at the moment?

"I think of life itself now as a wonderful play that I've written for myself... and so my purpose is to have the utmost fun playing my part."

"Life is too short to be little."

"Every man dies, but not every man lives...."

NEWS BITS

Halle Berry gives birth to baby girl!

Mariah Carey rocked SNL Saturday night.

Iran conservative wins parliamentary majority.

Bird Flu outbreak confirmed by Chinese officials.

A feature from my new favorite Men’s magazine! (The ‘Financial Sirens’ on stock TV).



3.16.2008

COLOR MEETS SPRING


The Sartorialist captured this dashing lad for March GQ (on newsstands now!). As you can see from the penetrative shot, the refined debonair blended his colors accordingly, while not going too far out. Almost seems he used the PANTONE technique. After viewing the Spring shot, I decided to go to market and highlight some Spring exotics. Having some exotics at your disposable will indeed kick up your Spring style game .

Fred Perry for Swear


Not your average color choice for sneakers, but these suede head-breakers catapults any getup to the next level.

Etro Shirt


What a popping floral? Etro really stepped up their textile treatments for Spring. Get closer to the shirt's detailing; check the amazing color contrast between the petals and vines. So fresh!

TOD'S



You can't say exotics and leave out TOD's. This brand has become iconic for their comfy drivers. Especially the Gommino styles (pictured) ! I'm not familiar with TOD'S footwear mechanics, but they make stellar 'tractions' for drivers and loafers (I still dig Minnetonka drivers!).

Patrik Ervell


Brighten up your drab Spring days in this sunny anorak Gents. It has simple sensibilities, with practicality at the same time. Plus, the large side flap pockets add to the already strong detailing infused throughout the outerwear (look real close).

Moncler



This is my favorite exotic for Spring!!! I'm fascinated by this brand's reinvention to coolness. Moncler’s baseball cap (not sold in the U.S.A. as of yet. I purchased mine overseas!) is perfect for a fun day out or at the ballpark. The brim contrast just screams fly, doesn't it?!

Be daring this Spring, and step out Gents!!

EASY LIKE SUNDAY MORNING!

Sunday--Refreshing and Relaxing. There's this unexplainable chill out factor the day possess.

Today's "In the Spirit" fueled this entry, and I wanted to highlight some chill music that automatically reverts the senses back to relaxing.

Like everyone else, Mr. MSR is still cooing after the MacBook Air advert. And the song featured in the campaign--New Soul by Yael Naim--is a favorite track to chillax to.



My brethren Kwasi recently introduced me to the Zoot Woman band and I'm hooked on their single It's Automatic (released 2001). The single reiterates 'Automatic' beyond belief, but the track's fresh and pulsating instrumentals makes hearing the repetitiveness bearable. Zoot Woman is one of the early members of the electroclash (new wave meets electro dance) scene.

IN THE SPIRIT

3/16/2008

Value just being

"To do great work a man must be very idle as well as very industrious."

Many of us have been taught to believe that we are valued for what we do, not just for who we are. ‘Doing’ is important, but to keep life in balance, we also need time to just ‘be.’

Henry David Thoreau expressed this so well in Walden Pond:

"There were times when I could not afford to sacrifice the bloom of the present moment to any work, whether of the head or hand.

"Sometimes, on a summer morning, I sat in my sunny doorway from sunrise till noon, rapt in a revery, amidst the pines and hickories and sumacs, in undisturbed solitude and stillness, while the birds sang around or flitted noiseless through the house, until by the sun falling in at my west window, or the noise of some traveler's wagon on the distant highway, I was reminded of the lapse of time.

"I grew in those seasons like corn in the night, and they were far better than any work of the hands would have been."

Be present to just simply being GENTS.


3.15.2008

COMMUNITY ARTFUL BACKDROPS

Street Art: The backdrop for neighborhood picture-taking; the displays recognized as ones tag or ups (graffiti term), or maybe the artwork of a burgeoning neighborhood artist. I’ve encountered many street art displays over the years and I’m really impressed with these I found from a street in London (East End).

Just imagine if these were commissioned murals in your pied-à-terre.






FOOTWEAR’S TO BRANDISH THIS SEASON



Andy Warhol once said, “my favorite smell is the first smell of spring in New York,” and I am in total agreement. With a care for the season, I wanted to show you the season’s top footwear delights. Your footwear for Spring are very importante, Señor. It anchors all your spring ensembles. To add also, great footwear always blends well with Spring colors and exotica prints (kaleidoscope, vibrant pastels (so 80’s!) trucking motifs (mostly found on shirts)).

My top Spring faves:

GUCCI

Check out these wicked Red calfskin casual sneaks. They include red/white fabric with signature logo on heel and elastic laces.



Wardrobe Tip: Denim Shorts (Dark Blue or White) with a classic white V-neck (American Apparel or Hanes) matches the outspoken designs of these sneakers. Plus, simplicity on the top compliments the popping checkered design below.

Adidas


Sleek oxfords inspired by classic basketball and tennis shoes, features a smooth, vulcanized silhouette with subtle perforation detail. The streak of aqua blue (Spring hue) is my favorite detail, then the perforated dotting technique (symbolizes adidas signature three stripes) on the side.


Wardrobe Tip: Wear these pointers with Red Shorts (trust Mr. MSR) or pants. The contrasting effect will definitely liven up these soles. A classic Polo (in black or white) would perfect this getup. If you prefer more cool-and-fly, grab a V-neck for substitution.

Dolce & Gabbana


A sporty classic lace-up adorned with silvertone logo plate on the side. These lo-top refreshers execute the classic sneaker silhouette real well.



Wardrobe Tip: Due to the plainness designs (with exception of logo plate) of the sneakers, I say do black-on-black to enable some sneaker distinction. I know you’re wondering, BLACK for Spring?! Yes, Black works for Spring. Just choose spring-appropriate fabrics: Linen and Pima Cotton for example.

Prada


Get your grown and sexy going Gents. Bring the beach to the city, or your area. Don’t only bank on this style for jet-setting or island vacays. Show off your feet (just make sure they’re taking care of. Lol. girls always attack us for jacked up toes) in these calfskin crisscross gems. Although their leather lined, the open air ventilation enables your feet to breathe fresh.


Wardrobe Tip: The best thing about these slides is its universal wardrobe appeal. From a suit (so Italy) to casual jeans, these sandals can flow with any getup.

VOGUE, WHY, WHY?


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Firstly, I am disappointed at the cliché cover photo Annie Leibovitz shot of LeBron James. The pigskin basketball weaved with LeBron is so passé. Secondly, where was his fashion (Giselle was radiating)? To me LeBron, well, was just LeBron from the court. I can’t believe this shot was approved by VOGUE editrix Anna Wintour.

Despite VOGUE missing the huge style mark, they made up (somewhat) with other athlete/model parings: Others include swimmer Michael Phelps with Caroline Trentini, snowboarder Shaun White with Daria Werbowy; and speed skater Apolo Ohno with Doutzen Kroes.

Speaking of fashion and sports in the same mix I just received some exclusives from ESPN magazine. The magazine is stepping up their fashion coverage! They even hired a style director (Kevin Stewart, congrats! You’ve seen his bylines in Details, Men’s Fitness, Savoy, Vibe, etc.) to spearhead the fashion efforts and will start running the fashion credits. According to ESPN insiders, it’s a great platform for the publication to tap into the fashion advertisement dollars.

In addition, this year there will be a spring fashion portfolio, another in the fall and one during the holidays.

3.14.2008

MSR READERS, YOU ARE APPRECIATED!

Before I feature another post I have to give a big THANKS to ALL MaleStyle Review readers, fans, and onlookers. The positive e-mail feedbacks has been inspiring, the praises I’ve received on the streets are appreciated, the general comments left on the blog are all components that makes up the driving force of this blog. It started with a simple idea. A conversation with my colleague and a session with Cliff Hopkinson (managing editor of Condé Nast Traveler) solidified the MaleStyle Review blog concept.

I never forget to say “Thank You” and “Please, even in normal daily activities. It sounds cliché but these two words have set the stage for all the countless blessings and opportunities this young Gent has received thus far. My focused intentions behind this blog are to generate a platform for GENTS to congregate on. My success, I already received—the positive responses and pleasing comments.

Another success story is looking where the blog has traveled. It’s transcontinental baby! I’m really siked! Dubai, England, Africa (so siked!), Germany, Jamaica, Hong Kong, Spain, just to name a few are all logged in to MaleStyle Review. I’ll continue bringing the content and sartorialness (sp).

Take care everyone and continue reading!

Thank You, 谢谢 (Chinese), Gracias (Spanish), Respect Due (Jamaican).

-Mr. MSR


IN THE PRESENT & NEWS BITS

3/14/2008

In the Present

FOCUS ON YOUR FUTURE NOT YOUR PAST

Your future is a big adventure.
Prepare for your future don't live in the past.
Savor your good memories,
use any bad ones as lessons in life.

Carve out a niche for yourself in your imagined future.
Think, feel and see yourself as successful.
To achieve any goal in life, you need to project your end result.
Think of the elation, the satisfaction, the joy you'll feel.
Carry these ecstatic feelings with you every day and they'll bring your desired goals into view.

Sooner or later, you can win if you think you can.
The cards you are dealt in life
are less important than the way you play them.
Everyday you're offered a new deal and new cards.

Success is in your future if you're willing to work for it.

NEWS BITS

Über designer—Richard Chai—confirmed for Target “GO International” line.

Elliot Spitzer in NY, now pressure for Mayor Kwame Kilpatrick of Detroit.

The polls open today in Iran for parliamentary elections.

Congrats to our new governor—David Patterson—who will take NY further.

Major flu outbreak throughout Honk Kong shuts down the primary school system.

3.13.2008

IN THE PRESENT & NEWS BITS

3/13/2008

In the Present

Thursday 13, March 2008


Fears of money

"We are all powerless as children, and money looms so powerfully... we don't grow up to claim our financial power until we look money directly in the eye, face our fears, and claim that power back."

-- Suze Orman

How does money scare you?

In your journal, write down your greatest fears around money, and see what comes up. If emotions surface, as they undoubtedly will, let them come. Really feel your feelings, without judgment. They'll give you valuable information.

"In all realms of life it takes courage to stretch your limits, express your power, and fulfill your potential; it’s no different in the financial realm. In a buy-now, consume-now culture like ours, it takes courage to make the decisions today that may make us rich tomorrow. It takes courage to face up to the facts of old age and mortality and to prepare for them. It also takes courage to live generously, regardless of your financial state of affairs. ...It takes courage to ask for what you want. And it takes courage to live honestly, wisely, true to yourself ...and true to your desire for more."

NEWS BITS

Every campaign scandal means another employee bites the dust!

The Houston Rockets continue launching into victory with 20th straight win.

John McCain starts looking for his tag team partner.

Mr. MSR favorite shop in the world! Plus, I dig Olivia Kim and Jen. Krause who runs their showroom!!!
Hackers breaking into iPhone 2.0.


3.12.2008

MSR FUNNIES

The most funniest thing I saw yesterday! I love me some Amy Poehler!

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SNL Will Ferrell "Spartan Cheer" classic skit that still brings back strong LOL memories!

MSR: THIS WEEK IN STYLE

**Some shots are from last week's edition




Clooney looking Dapper on the recent cover of TIME

Actor Hosea Sanchez (CW-The Game) showing a strong sense of style with this black-on-black outfit.
Case in point: He uses a red leather belt (w/white stitching) to kick the style factor up.

Eva you GET IT! Lance don't slip up with her!

Actor (from Greys Anatomy) giving his cool rocker pose. Mr. MSR is feeling the avis!

Al Roker here with his wife at Ermenegildo Zegna boutique opening.
Check the RODA linen pocket square. Remember you heard it here first but it's the next big haberdashery (especially RODA) we're going to see emerge in menswear!

Tom Hanks always frame up his suits! Even the rtw (ready to wear) getups!

The best dressed gent at last night's Ermenegildo Zegna boutique opening in NYC.
Sidebar: Check out the perfect jacket length-to-cuff ratio Tiki's showing off!



MSR ENDORSES BARACKAWEAR


Ladies Cap Sleeve T-Shirt!


Men's Black Hoodie (A favorite of Mr. MSR)

On a bus ride en route back to NYC recently I was talking with a friend about political clothing designers and their messaging(s). We raved about Diddy’s VOTE or DIE and how suggestive and in-your-face it was. Also, the large impact and needed awareness it carried to young voters. She made a joke (can’t remember the exact spewed tagline) about a t-shirt highlighting the faced severities we’d encounter by not voting for President Obama. Would you know, right after I got back I received an e-mail about a clothing brand pro-Obama. I’ve see countless OK, and plain right tacky fashion depictions for Barack Obama.

I am excited by and for this new brand. My style endorsement (hands down!) goes to Barackawear!

Their collection (for men & women) is very edgy with the required boldness to grab your attention. The line as I’ve seen, is being supported by scores of celebrities and power players throughout. Hill Harper (my mentor and actor) recently nabbed over 200+ shirts for swag bags for Oprah Winfrey’s ‘Barack Obama’ fundraiser.

Starting out with a limited and exclusive run, brother-sister duo Lorielle (stylist) and Brandon (movie producer) turned Barackawear into a two-part collection—stocking t-shirts (ringer and plain styles) and hoodies. I’m excited to see what Barackawear turns into. I’ll definitely be sporting some of the pieces throughout the campaigning.

I encourage you readers to preview my new favorite find at: Barackawear.

IN THE PRESENT & NEWS BITS

3/12/08

In the Present

Open to the new

"The illiterate of the 21st century will not be those who cannot read and write, but those who cannot learn, unlearn, and relearn."

How willing are you to learn something new? How open are you to new perspectives?

Only when we're open can we really hear what's being said or really see what's happening or really experience the moment.

Openness demands that we be willing to move to places we've never been before. It asks us to continually challenge the foundations of our belief systems so we can test out new ideas. And to do that, we need to accept insecurity.

Be open to seeing things: - from another's point of view, - from a higher and more inclusive perspective - with a beginner's attitude of wonder.

"The struggle of the mind to keep itself free from every sort of bondage -- to remain curious, open, unsatiated in all its relations with nature -- is tenfold more difficult than the cultivation of a stable, satisfying point of view, but a thousandfold more precious."

"Remain open. There is something bigger than you know going on here."

NEWS BITS

Elliot Spitzer to resign today and hand over duties to Lt. Gov. David Paterson (the first Black Lt. Governor and also legally blind. his story is so inspiring).

Obama is really rallying ahead of Clinton. God willing we’ll reign in Pennsylvania on April 22nd (next upcoming super Tuesday).

The 5 things we Gents need to stop racking our cranium with.

I, Robot finally make it to Blu-ray!

South Beach: The new Mondrian (half residency/half hotel) is the next big thing for the area.